I can remember waiting for what seemed like forever. I had been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years. I was 27.
Not exactly old, but I wasn’t getting younger and I wanted to move on with my life and start a family. I knew he was the one, and I was simply waiting for him to finally come out and pop the big question one day.
We had been together for a long time at this point. I didn’t know what was holding him back and I honestly started to wonder if he was having doubts about it all.
From there, I began bringing the topic up regularly and he handled it a bit awkwardly. This scared me even more. It shouldn’t have though. The reason he was awkward was that he had planned on proposing right around that time and wanted it to be a surprise.
It was still a surprise nonetheless. We ended up getting engaged very shortly after this all, as he popped the big question while we were away for a weekend together. I was thrilled.
This begs the question, when should he propose? Was 2 years and a few months too long, or should people wait this long to really figure things out? Does age play any kind of a hand in determining the answer to that question?
There’s no real answer to this question, as much as I’d like to say that there is one. It really varies by couple and you’ll have to take a good hard look at your relationship to determine the answer to that.
Still, you definitely have a right to ask. You’re not involved with him just for the sake of wasting your time, and you want to make sure that you’re both of the same mindset when it comes to these things.
Skip ahead three years later now. I’m now happily married with a three year old, and blog about the Little Tikes kitchens and the Little Tikes Cookin’ Fun Interactive Kitchen.